'Can't get over my crush'
I am 17 and have a crush on a guy since a year. I proposed him in November, but after three months, he said ‘no.’ The same day his friend proposed to me and I said ‘yes’ to him. Cyrus Broacha turns relationship guru.entertainment Updated: Apr 23, 2012 14:34 IST
I am 17 and have a crush on a guy since a year. I proposed him in November, but after three months, he said ‘no.’ The same day his friend proposed to me and I said ‘yes’ to him. Now we are in a relationship since a month and he’s a nice guy. But I still can’t get over my crush on the other guy. I still like him a lot and want to be in touch with him. But my boyfriend doesn’t allow me to do so. What should I do? I think I’m mad about him. Can you give me some advice? What should I do?
— Sakshi Sharma
Sakshi, I’m reeling. You proposed to a guy who took over 90 days to come up with a yes or no. Thus clearly supporting Darwin’s theory that we have evolved (throughout yet completely) from monkeys. On that same eventful day, let’s call it Friday the 13th, some other monkey person asked you for a relationship and you, ignoring the 90 days precedent, said yes on the spot? Clearly you were too hasty and in love with the first primitive, so set the second baboon free. Maybe try again with the first one but at the pace he goes at, expect it to be a long drawn out battle of attention.
I am 17. I was in relationship with a boy once and we ended it very badly. I don’t want to spoil my studies and have decided to strictly follow my motto of being single. But somehow, I get attracted to cute boys. I know it’s not love, just attraction. So what can I do to control my feelings and keep away from this love stuff?
— Ms Wannabe Single
Ms Wannabe single, you are exhibiting behaviour which is considered absolutely normal, and part for the course for a 17-year-old girl. That’s the good news. The bad news is that you’d rather not be normal, and rather not experience normal feelings. To do this, you must join either politics or Bollywood. Let me be very clear here, politics is a better choice as you won’t have to spend two hours a day doing make up. Still, I beg you try being normal for a little while longer, because going by Mamata’s ferocity last week, we don’t need an extra politician. And the whole world knows that for God's sake we don’t need another ‘item’ number.
I am 18 years old. I love one of my friends very much and have told her that. But she said she doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now. A few days ago, one of our mutual friends told me that she knows everything about my past and that’s why she rejected me. What should I do? Please help, I really love her.
— Sayed Saif
Sayed Saif, what’s your past? Paedophilia? Murderer? Member of a cult? A public urinator? A stamp collector? Look, forget about your past, try to reason with her, and for God’s sake don’t involve a third party in your communication. It has to be one on one. Having said that, she may just not fancy you that way so stop worrying about your past. Pay more attention to your future.
I’ve had many boyfriends and I broke up with all of them because of my parents. Six months ago, I met a guy who was six years older than me. A day later her proposed to me and I agreed. I am completely in love with him now, but I lied to him about my past. I told him I never had boyfriends. Somehow, he got to know about it. He hates lies and broke up with me. He said the problem is not the boyfriends, but the lies. Now I can’t live without him. Should I try to approach him or just forget him because of my parents and never have boyfriends again? Please help with a solution.
— Sall Maurya
Sall, frankly I don’t like this guy for you. There are worse lies than not telling him about your boyfriends. Who does he think he is? Saint Simon? Since he’s in such a hurry to judge, let’s hope he doesn’t have some uncivilised bones in his closet.
In my experience of 178 relationships, nine of which were with human beings, the rest mostly with furniture, I have found that those who are quickest to judge and pass sentence actually have plenty to hide.
Just write to uncle cy: firstname.lastname@example.org And I’ll give you some relief…. err… that is, provided, I’m not doing a headstand at the time.
First Published: Apr 23, 2012 12:33 IST