Discipline your parents, says Cyrus Broacha
And I’ll give you some relief…. err… that is, provided, I’m not doing a headstand at the time.
I am 17 and have a 21-year-old boyfriend. His parents, who just don’t like anything about him, want him to get married, especially because he’s dating me. Due to all this, he stays at home. He respects his parents, but they still say he doesn’t respect them. I know what he is doing and what he wants to do, and I’m getting tensed for him. I want to see him happy. Please help.
— Riya Sen
Riya, are you the famous actor? Because she also claims to be err...17? Coming to the problem, I see this as your boyfriend’s issue. Not really anything that you can do. He has to decide what to do with his parents. I’ve been saying this for the last 1000 years — “you have to discipline your parents”. Discipline is not just a one-way street. So show him
support, but it really is up to him.
I am 18 years old and have been in a stable relationship since four years. We love each other a lot. I am going to shift far away from my girlfriend at the end of this year. Should I break up with her or go against my parents’ wish of shifting? Please help Cy.
Xender, don’t write this kind of thing. You may get arrested, especially in Kolkata. Dating a girl since you were 14? Whatever happened to conventional recreational activities like cricket, football and even kayaking? Now, long distance is difficult, no doubt. See how it plays out; see if you both can make the extra effort. It’ll be like a test and ultimately you will get a result.
I am 20 years old and was in a relationship with a school friend, but due to some misunderstanding, we broke up. I was very upset. After a few months, another friend asked me out. I got attracted to him and said yes. But later I realised that I was actually missing my ex and regretting what I had done. I like my current boyfriend, but I don’t love him. At the same time, I’m unable to break up with him. I don’t want to hurt him. He’s very serious about me. I am confused. What should I do?
C’mon Aisha (thanks for giving me a heart attack as that is my wife’s name). You don’t really need to write in. You already have the answer. Stop stringing him along. He isn’t the real deal. It’s not fair to either of you. Move on. Say goodnight Irene or Adios Amigo, in the most sensitive way you can. And next time, please use an alias. My blood pressure still hasn’t come down.
I am a 17-year-old boy. I had a girlfriend in school when I was in the tenth standard. Later, I had one in my building. On both occasions, my mom found out about my relationship and told me to break up. But now I feel lonely and depressed. Please help.
— Mr Lonely
Well under Indian law, a son is supposed to obey his mother up till his 73rd birthday (In Pakistan it is 74th). Having said that, if your mother is going to decide your girlfriends for you, you’re going to be very lonely for a long time. Oh but why are we worrying about loneliness... there is always mummy!
Just write to uncle cy firstname.lastname@example.org