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Are you in a relationship or situationship? 4 things you need to know about the difference
If you have asked yourself 'What are we?' you might be in a situationship. According to a relationship coach, here is how it is different from a relationship.
We have all heard of situationships by now. You know, the kind of casual or sexual relationships that exist between 'friends with benefits' and 'in a relationship'. It is basically a relationship that isn't even official: There are no hard launches on social media, no keeping toothbrushes at each others' place, and no meeting the parents. Also read | What is the best age to marry? Pros and cons of marrying in your 20s, 30s, 40s and beyond
In a recent Instagram post, relationship coach and author, Javal Bhatt highlighted the difference between a relationship and a situationship.
While you may think the rise in situationships could be linked to the infinite amount of options available on dating apps – why commit to monogamy with one person when you could be one swipe away from a more-perfect match? – Javal spoke about how the intentions and responses vary in 'relationship vs situationship'. He shared four instances:
Sample #1
◉ Relationship: My intention is clear, I want to date to marry.
◉ Situationship: Let's see, let's go with the flow.
Sample #2
◉ Relationship: I don't accept inconsistency, breadcrumbs, hot and cold behaviour, or mixed signals. I clearly communicate and walk away if needed.
◉ Situationship: I am okay with breadcrumbs and mixed signals; just don't leave me.
Sample #3
◉ Relationship: I don't fake to impress anyone. I want someone to accept the real me, and I am looking for a connection, not time pass.
◉ Situationship: I just want someone because I feel too lonely. So, I am okay with faking and changing myself just because I want them to like me and accept me.
Sample #4
◉ Relationship: I am okay letting them go if someone does not need me and does not reciprocate, but ignores and ghosts me. I know I want a connection. So why fear, hold or force?
◉ Situationship: I want to hold on because may be I will never find love again. I have put so much time and effort into this person.
Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice.
