Thoughts that fuel your need for people-pleasing

From disappointing people or being labeled as selfish, here are a few thoughts that push us to please others.

Published on: Dec 23, 2023 5:31 PM IST

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People-pleasing is a harmful behaviour pattern. It makes us prioritise others to the point that we end up betraying our own needs. "Moving beyond these thoughts is about creating a new narrative for ourselves, one where our self-worth isn't tied to how much we can please others," wrote Therapist Klara Kernig as she shared a few thoughts that fuel our need for people-pleasing. (Unsplash)

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We feel that if we donot please others, they will be upset with us. When we come with fear of abandonment, people being upset is a scary thought.  (Unsplash)

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We feel that we are important to others and that they count on us. So, we feel scared of disappointing them by prioritising us.  (Unsplash)

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We have the urge of being liked by everyone all the time. Hence, we need to agree with others to be liked.  (Unsplash)

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We fear that we will be seen as selfish or rude. Hence, we get onboard with plans which we disagree with.  (Unsplash)

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When we come from dysfunctional families, we fear conflicts and disagreements. Hence, we try to please others to avoid uncomfortable situations. (Unsplash)