Some may feel that it is narcissistic but it is, in fact, the first step that you should take towards achieving success, says Chitra Jhaeducation Updated: Nov 10, 2010 09:55 IST
Loving ourselves is an important step towards achieving success in life. Some of us think that we are unworthy of love while some think that it is inappropriate to love ourselves, but the fact remains that until we can love ourselves, we can’t achieve our highest potential.
Each one of us is a combination of positive, negative, and neutral qualities. Each unique combination makes us who we are — with some good bits which we admire and some tendencies that we wish we didn’t have. This is a part of being human.
If you can’t embrace your imperfections, pick at least one attribute that you admire in yourself. Perhaps you can pick many such attributes. Can you love yourself for these positive qualities?
Now ask your near and dear ones what they love about you. Add this quality to your list of things to love yourself for. Say loudly, “I deeply and completely love myself.” How does it feel? If it feels good, repeat it as often as you can.
The benefits of loving ourselves
When we love and care for ourselves, we can truly love others without ‘needing’ their love in return. This in turn
makes us more receptive to other people’s needs
We remain healthy and happy.
We become more resilient when facing stress, challenges and adversity.
We maintain broad perspective and identify solutions.
We make better decisions and perform at a higher level.
We find it easy to be grateful.
We appreciate others more easily.
We make friends easily and garner more support from our colleagues.
We give from the ‘over-flow’ (of energy) and do not deplete our own energy.
We become more successful at whatever we do.
The author is a life-skills coach, time-line therapist, and new consciousness writer. Contact:
First Published: Nov 09, 2010 14:55 IST