9 ‘first-time’ sex myths busted: From virginity to painful sex to moaning and more

Making out with your partner, for the first time, looks like a daunting task. The thing is, same-size-fits-all rule doesn’t apply when it comes to keeping your partner happy in the bed.

sex and relationships Updated: Oct 03, 2017 08:35 IST
Sex myths,Sex facts,Myths about sex
Not every woman bleeds when it’s her first time. (Shutterstock)

Does sex scare you? Is performance anxiety as big a fear as losing your job or not getting increments this year? Do you find yourself struggling with all things between the sheets because you’ve heard horror stories from friends who claim to score more regularly than you?

Yes, making out with your partner, for the first time, looks like a daunting task. The thing is, same-size-fits-all rule doesn’t apply when it comes to keeping your partner happy in the bed. The trouble is that most of these fears are driven by the countless myths surrounding sex that have become universal truths of sorts in the absence of any concrete study or evidence.

Here are 9 myths you shouldn’t believe in any more.

1. Myth: You’re safe from STD’s

Reality: Nobody is immune. Even to STDs if you’re not using protection. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), almost 20 million new STDs are diagnosed each year in the United States. The numbers reached an all time high in the US last year, with over two million cases of chlamydia, gonorrhoea and syphilis reported in the country, health officials said today. In India, doctors say they are seeing a rise in those testing positive for syphilis among other sexually transmitted diseases. Practice safe sex!

2. Myth: If it’s her first time, the woman will bleed.

Reality: Of all the sex myths, this one is widely believed. The truth is, not every woman bleeds when it’s her first time. Because it’s not just during sex that her hymen can tear. It can happen while cycling, exercising, using a tampon, or at other times. In fact, according to a study published by the British Medical Journal, at least 63% of women won’t bleed the first time they indulge in intercourse.

3. Myth: Be cool during your first time and don’t make noises

Reality: If it’s your first time, of course it would feel a bit awkward if you start making noises while having sex. But it’s ok: Moaning is a way of expressing your pleasure.

4. Myth: Protection makes it difficult to penetrate

Reality: Of course it takes a bit longer when you’re wearing a condom, especially since you also need to put it on in the middle of the act. But that’s ok, you just need to get used to it and you will get along fine!

5. Myth: It’s very painful for the woman during the first time

Reality: Although most women experience some discomfort when they have sex for the first time, it need not be painful as is widely believed. If the right amount of foreplay is practiced, the pain will lessen. In fact, according to a study by Indiana University, women who used the lube while having sex experienced much less pain and were more satisfied too.

6. Myth: It’s as awesome as it will be in the movies

Reality: Don’t build your expectations from what you in movies. It can be a different experience for everyone, even clumsy. It is not going to be a perfectly shot scene like they had in Basic Instinct (1992).

8. Myth: The definition of virginity

Reality: Most people aren’t clear about the definition of virginity. Although penetrative sex is one way of losing your virginity, it’s not the only way. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the average age when Americans lost their virginity (vaginal sexual intercourse) was 17.1. Virgins made up 12.3 % females and 14.3 % males between the ages 20 to 24.

9. Myth: Size does matter

Reality: Although that’s what popular culture would like you to believe, it’s not true. What matters is the equation you share with the person you are getting intimate with, and how good a lover you are.

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First Published: Oct 03, 2017 08:34 IST