Mistakes we make when we are scared to set boundaries

From over-explaining to minimising our needs, here are a few mistakes that we make when we are too scared to set boundaries.

Updated on: Jul 16, 2023 1:35 PM IST

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Often we are scared to set boundaries thinking that we will offend people in the process. It can happen when we are brought up in dysfunctional homes where our boundaries were stepped on time to time. "Setting healthy boundaries can be challenging, but it can be easier with the right skills. Show yourself some understanding and compassion as you learn to consider your needs and respect your limits," wrote Therapist Klara Kernig as she pointed out the common mistakes that we make when we are scared to set boundaries. (Unsplash)

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Often after setting a boundary, we apologise excessively for the same. When we are not guilty, and yet we apologise, it can undermine our assertiveness.  (Unsplash)

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We need to be clear when we set a boundary. Often, we are vague and assume that the other person will know – this can be an unhealthy pattern.  (Unsplash)

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When we are too scared to confront someone, we end up not setting a boundary. This further lowers our self-esteem.  (Unsplash)

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"When we over-explain, we often give the impression that we're insecure about setting the boundary," wrote the Therapist.  (Unsplash)

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Especially in cases of people pleasing, we end up minimising our needs and prioritising others to make them happy.  (Unsplash)