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Secrets of success

Acquire the charisma that will make you stay ahead of the pack reports Chitra Jha

education Updated: Mar 24, 2010 09:12 IST
Chitra Jha
Chitra Jha
Hindustan Times

Have you ever wondered about the secrets of success? Has it ever occurred to you that there must be something amiss in your efforts to be successful? Are you living the life that you want to live? Do you feel energetic and alive all the time? Are you passionate about what you do? Do you face each day with expectation and excitement? Do these questions make you uncomfortable? Well, my purpose is to shake you out of your complacence and urge you to move to the next level.

Why is it that so few of us get to be ‘successful’? Being successful takes learning some skills that successful people have or acquire. These skills are not necessarily taught in our schools and colleges. That is why a formal education leaves us high and dry on the path to success. Are you willing to give some time to learn these skills to stay ahead of the pack?

There are five character traits that finally determine the chances of your being successful. Some of these distinct traits may be present in you, some you may need to learn. Let us examine these ‘success sutras’.

Discipline: We know that hard work is the key to success, but hard work without discipline is of no use. Discipline makes you set goals. It helps you manage your time. It makes you measure the results, and finally it helps you maintain an overall balance in your life. So inculcate some discipline in your life. It pays.

Passion: Like I said earlier, it is more than just hard work that lets you taste success. How you hold on to a dream determines your success. It is our passion for what we do that makes us sail through these difficult times. You must develop an instinct that will help you to press on and dream mega dreams.

Whatever it is that you do, unless you do it to the best of your capability, it is not enough. Passion is the driving force that makes you put in your best effort.

Risk: Risk is that ability that makes you step out of your comfort zone. It is not always about rolling a dice and taking a chance. Your willingness to face the challenges on the road to success makes you defeat your complacent attitude. That is your risk-taking ability. It is an ability that is valued very highly as a leadership trait. You must be ready to face challenges, regardless of the cost. Your willingness to take risks gets your adrenaline pumping, and helps you move ahead.

Optimism: They say, ‘You are what you think about.’ Your self-esteem, self-image, and confidence come from your optimism. Do you see the glass half full or half empty? Your answer to this question determines how successful you’ll get in life. A positive outlook is the precursor to success. Once you have achieved that, you are ready to take on the world. You should not be boastful, but you must develop a genuine sense of self-worth. You must find value in being yourself. If you are optimistic, you are always a pleasure to be around.

Interpersonal skills: You must understand that relationships are fundamental to overall success. That includes personal relationships and your individual ability to deal with people.

Factors like negotiating, selling your ideas, and public speaking are all necessary for ultimate success. Don’t always stay in the background. Know when to speak, and when to listen. Be confident of your abilities but don’t try to put others down.

Do you agree with me so far? Can you take some time out and analyse yourself on these critical parameters? The next step is — Action. Just understanding things and concepts is not enough. You need to move further than that. Take action to improve yourself. Internalise these concepts. Turn your challenges into opportunities. Take help from your parents, friends, colleagues or teachers. Look for the answers, direction, and guidance that you need in order to improve your chances of success. Taking an action now will enhance your life for years to come.

Remember, if you make the choice of not taking action, the challenges that face you today will only grow bigger in size, and tackling them will become that much harder.

The author is a life-skills coach, time-line therapist, and new consciousness writer. Contact:

First Published: Mar 23, 2010 11:32 IST