Shefali Shah on raising two sons amid alpha male debate: Our daughters will be safe if our sons are raised right

Shefali Shah shared that she will know if she has raised her sons right only when they reach the age of 30 and make certain decisions for themselves.

Shefali Shah shared her candid opinions about motherhood and parenting. The actor was in conversation with Lily Singh in her podcast, when she was asked about raising two sons, when so much debate about ‘alpha male’ is around in society. The actor spoke unapologetically about how she has tried to instill values in her sons and would hope that her sons turn out decent when they are older. (Also read: ‘Don’t have kids, just have dogs': Shefali Shah shares an advice on marriage and children for young women)

Shefali Shah has two sons: Aryaman Shah and Maurya Shah, from her marriage to director Vipul Amrutlal Shah.

What Shefali said

The actor has two sons: Aryaman Shah and Maurya Shah, from her marriage to director Vipul Amrutlal Shah. When Lilly asked about the constant noise on the 'alpha male' and 'traditional wife' narrative, the actor said, “Our daughters will be safe if our sons are raised right. I figured this one line which I told them, which I think works for everyone. You treat others the way you are expected to be treated yourself. It is really just as simple as that. There is nothing more and nothing less. The rest… there is a lot of noise. Would you like to be treated like this? No? Don't do it to another person.”

She went on to add, “Did I succeed? I will only know by the time they are 30. They are growing. They are going to have their own points of view. They are going to want to refute everything that an adult, a parent, or a mother says. And they are going to question it. They are going to be conflicted… If they are going to behave badly, I am not going to take responsibility for it. I cannot. I did my best… but everytime the child behaves badly… That person has a mind of their own. I did as well as I could. I think they (her sons) turned out half-decent.”

More about Shefali

Shefali got married to filmmaker Vipul Shah in a low-key ceremony in 2000. They share two sons together: Aryaman and Maurya. She was earlier married to actor Harsh Chhaya.

Shefali was last seen in Delhi Crime season 3. Directed by Tanuj Chopra, the show also starred Huma Qureshi, Rasika Dugal, Rajesh Tailang, Sayani Gupta and Mita Vashisht in key roles. The series follows DIG Vartika Chaturvedi, played by Shefali, as she returns to Delhi to investigate a major case involving missing girls. The show is currently streaming on Netflix.