Signs of a secure relationship: Expert explains
From respecting intimacy to having space to be ourselves, here are few signs of a secure relationship.
A relationship depends on a lot of effort and trust from both ends. People who are involved in the relationship need to have a lot of understanding about each other, the patience to go through all the ups and downs together and learn to embrace the imperfections in each other to make a perfect relationship. The building blocks of a relationship are done by trust, loyalty, honesty, and a lot of understanding about each other. However, a relationship can become toxic with time, when the people involved do not understand the boundaries that should be respected in a safe and healthy relationship. In order to make a relationship safe, secure and healthy for the people involved in it, we need to make a lot of effort.
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“Beautiful signs of security. Does anybody enjoy this 100% of the time? Of course not; we all have our own woundings that we bring into our relationships that must be managed, understood, and communicated. That being said, it is very important to understand what a secure relationship looks like and how it functions. This allows you and your partner to know what to work towards, and to know what the tender points in your relationship are,” wrote Psychotherapist Emily H Sanders as she explained the beauty of a secure relationship and how it looks like.
Support: A true sign of a safe relationship involves finding a goos supporter inside the relationship, and the space to speak our hearts out to the person we are with, without the fear of being judged for how we feel.
Teammates: A safe relationship involves two people who work as teammates and have each other's back at all times. This involves understanding each other’s perspectives, dreams and goals.
Safety: Unlike unhealthy relationships, a safe relationship is not volatile – it feels stable to be in it and provides emotional and physical safety.
Conflicts: A conflict is a healthy sign in a relationship as it involves understanding each other better. Being able to handle conflicts and hard conversations together without letting them make a dent in the togetherness is a sign of security in a relationship.
Space: it is extremely important to have the space to be yourself in the relationship. Finding your own set of friends and hobbies is also important.
Intimacy: The sense of closeness, vulnerability and intimacy is valued and cherished in the relationship.