CBSE Class 10 result: Dear parents, here’s how to help your child deal with stress today
CBSE Class 10 result: We spoke to education experts on what parents should keep in mind after the results are declared.Board Exams 2018 Updated: May 29, 2018 12:44 IST
It’s a big day for thousands of students who have been eagerly waiting for the Central Board of Secondary Education to declare the result of the Class 10 board examination.
It is the culmination of a year’s hard work for not just the students but also their parents and teachers. While it is normal for all those invested to feel anxious, it is equally important for parents to emotionally support their children whatever the outcome may be.
The board will announce the results at 4pm on Tuesday.
We spoke to education experts on what parents should keep in mind after the results are declared:
Here’s what to avoid:
Don’t sermonise: If your child’s result is not up to your expectations, don’t add to their disappointment by saying, ‘I told you so’ or ‘You should have worked harder.’ Don’t add to their sorrow by bringing up past shortcomings or mistakes and make your child feel like a failure. If parents react in an overly negative manner, it may push the child towards thoughts of self-harm.
Don’t compare: Avoid comparing your child’s result with that of your relatives’ and friends’, who may have performed better. Every child is different and unique with their own set of talents. Focus on those. Your child is much more than the result. Also, avoid criticising your kid’s performance in your social circle as it may damage their self-esteem.
Don’t leave your child alone: If you notice a change in your child’s behaviour and they are unusually quiet or withdrawn after the result, don’t leave them alone. Make sure your child does not sleep alone for a few days till their mood improves.
Here’s what to do:
Be calm: Tell your child and yourself that the result is not the end of the world. There is much more to life and they can do better the next time. Reassure them that they are not alone.
Focus on the future: In Class 10, choosing a subject for Class 11 is a source of anxiety. Share the stress of making this choice. Assess your child’s skills and strengths and don’t force them to take up a subject they are not interested in or are not cut out for.
Seek advice from experts: Take your child to a counsellor or a psychologist to help them de-stress and plan their future. If they have not scored well in the subjects that you were hoping they would, help them look at other options they are good at.
Help your child relax: Before the result is out, spend the day together. Let them do whatever will make them comfortable: Go for a movie, eat out, play board games and let them be with friends.
(As told to Supriya Sharma by Geetanjali Kumar, mental health professional and CBSE helpline counseller, and Pooja Bakshi, a senior school counsellor with Tagore International School.)